Fear & Migraine: MHAM 2014 Blog Challenge Day 10

Today is Day 10 of Migraine & Headache Awareness Month 2014 and the MHAM Blog Challenge. It’s not too late to join in! You can find all the prompts and information about how to participate at this link: 2014 Migraine & Headache Awareness Month Blog Challenge | AHMA Blog.

Day 10’s prompt is a video of a TED Talk by Karen Thompson Walker called “What can fear teach us?”

Early in this amazing talk, Thompson Walker says, “What if we looked at fear in a fresh way? What if we thought of fear as an amazing act of the imagination?”

When she suggests we re-frame our fear-based thoughts as stories, this reminds me of one of my favorite quotes and one that my awesome therapist often brought up during our sessions when I was deep in the throes of my darkest days: “Don’t believe everything you think.” In a nutshell, this means that just because your brain has a thought doesn’t mean you have to believe it’s automatically true or attach to it.

Pre-life with Chronic Migraine, I was the type of person who believed that by planning things to a ridiculous degree of detail I could control the outcome of all future events in my life. After all, up to that point everything I’d ever tried to achieve and wanted for my life had come to pass through hard work, planning and perseverance. Little did I know it had been pure luck that I hadn’t faced any real setbacks in my life yet.

The reality is that you cannot control anything about your future. You can do your best to set things up to go well. And I do believe it’s worthwhile and responsible to do so. But the truth is that we are not really in control. Control is an illusion. Sometimes our bodies don’t cooperate. Sometimes other people in our lives don’t cooperate. Sometimes both and then some.

It’s not your fault that things happen outside your control. It’s the way of the world. And it’s remarkably freeing to realize this and accept that things will happen that we didn’t plan and certainly didn’t want, but that there are still ways to live fulfilling, satisfying and happy lives anyway. It’s a process, but working toward this kind of attitude (and always continuing to do so) is just so totally worth it.

Content by Diana E. Lee.

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